Wednesday, 1 July 2015

My Question To The Pseudo-Feminists



Feminism, when invented, simply meant equality for women in the society. However, right now we are in a phase in human history where women are slowly pushing men down to capture their place on top of the ladder. 

I am ready to face flak for this, but I am averse to this idea. As equal sexes, men and women are supposed to climb the ladder together, and not by pulling the other one down to mud.

We have been living in a terrible male-dominated world for ages. After much of exasperating efforts, women are finally making a paradigm shift. But hold on, is this shift in the right direction? I am afraid we’re shifting from a patriarchal, male-dominated society to a matriarchal, female-dominated society. Instead of asking for equal rights, why are we asking for a shift from one domination to the other? Isn’t domination exactly what we’re fighting against?

I am not against feminism. I am a woman and proud to be so. But I am definitely against this new found facet of feminism that promotes nothing but weakness in women.
For instance, ladies yell out at male passengers sitting on a ladies’ seat. We all think this is the right way. But do we actually pay head to what these small acts actually portray? That women are weak. That they cannot stand on their feet for long. That they need men to vacate seats for them. Is this what we should call feminism? The other day I was talking to a friend about this. Her response was very casual (and I’m sure almost-universal also) - “See I prefer convenience. When I travel in metro and I see a guy sitting on a ladies’ seat, I ask him to get up. If we’re getting an advantage, why waste it?”

Now if we think, isn’t it the same thing we’ve been cursing men for? Of taking advantage of their position in the society? 
If we cannot stand for ourselves, how can we ask men to do that?
We have it written all over our public transports. “Please vacate seats for women, children and physically challenged” So is this what it is? Are women equivalent to children and the physically challenged? Hell not!
Also, ladies like it when their boyfriends take them out for shopping and pay restaurant bills for them. That is courteous and gentlemanly, for sure. But once in a while, we can pay bills for them, too. If equality it is, then equality it shall be!

We disgrace men for taking advantage of their convenient authoritative position in the society and at the same time we ourselves prefer “convenience”. How will anybody take us seriously if we are so hypocritical? We just keep changing the definition of equality according to our whims and fancies. Male-chauvinists have already done this to death, pretending to be superior. We don’t need to repeat it.

Let me put it straight for all the weak and hypocritical women out there. You’re not superior to men, nor are they superior to you. We are all made equal; men, women and transgender alike. In all probable definitions and meanings. Equal.

P.S- I am a feminist. Even I hate men who impose restrictions on the women in their lives and mentally/physically abuse them. I do not stand eve-teasing and walk with pride on the road. I love being a woman. But I am not weak. I can earn respect for myself as a good human being. I don’t demand respect simply for being a woman. All I demand is equality, unfiltered and for all.


P.P.S- I posted this article on a writer's society and people went on to criticize it to extents where I was taken terribly out of context. So if any of you feel the same, let me tell you that I am NOT against feminism. I believe it is high time women get their due in the society but not at the cost of hating and generalizing all men! Some women have been misusing and misinterpreting feminism for personal benefits rather than well-being of women in general. These are my personal opinions and I stand by them. Maybe I'm not absolutely right but I am absolutely honest. 
In the words of Kurt Cobain: "I'd rather be hated for who I am than be loved for who I am not" 

19 comments:

  1. I really appreciate your attitude. I have always been a humanist, and would want to stand equal with any woman who is willing to be an equal. My wife is a good example of this she may even be my superior but we still are equals and we like it that way.
    What you speak of with your friend is what we call "demanding MORE equal status" and personally I appreciate how you (as a woman) are denouncing that. That's humanism :)

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    1. It feels so relieving to have someone understand what I wanted to put across. Thank you so much!

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  2. OH DUDE! I would say that you have written down and expressed what I feel exactly! It's legit going out of hand, the way women are understanding feminism. Cases of women beating up men and filing fake complaints of harassment against them are rising like crazy!

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    1. Thank you so much Ragini! And yes you're absolutely right on that matter!

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  3. You won't get an argument from me... I think you're dead on. Equality also means earning respect and position, no matter what gender, color or size you may be... it is, quite simply, an even playing field.

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  4. You have no clue how glad I am that females like you exist. I too, have written about this issue on my blog a while back. This is an issue the society is failing to address, the pursuit for equality is now the war for dominance. Nonetheless, if we have females like you and like-minded men who see women as equal, we have hope. Great post! Kudos to you.

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    1. Thanks a lot :D It feels good to have men like you, too! Can you send me the link of your blog?

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  5. I'm so happy that you posted this. :) People or rather women forget to draw the line between empowerment and equality. And yes, I think we should take turns when it comes to paying bills. :)
    Just let me know of this society, okay? Cause what thy did wasn't criticising, but putting you down.

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    1. Heyyy Vani :* Thank you so so much!

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  7. Damn Ishita! I get exactly where you're coming from. It's not about being on the top of the ladder... It's about being at the same level. I mean yeah... It's awful when a guy is sexist and you just wanna punch the hell out of him. But for every 10 guys, there's at least 1 girl out there who's equally sexist and believes in all the 'guy' stereotypes. We get so lost in the premeditated images we have of the other sex, most of forget to look at what the actual human being is like. I totally support your views, and I think this is something that all people should, at least, be aware of.

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    1. Bang! You got it :'D You just summarised all what I meant through this article. Thankyou so much for reading, appreciating and supporting, my loyal reader :* :')

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  8. A powerful article Ishita. Must read for the typical feminists of present day

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  9. Very correctly put ! The whole idea behind feminism is to first feel empowered yourself.

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  10. This was so nicely put, you just got a new fan.

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    1. Thank you so much for the flattering words! :)

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